Saturday, August 28, 2010
As you know, Ken Mehlman came out. This is the man who lead Bush's campaign against gay marriage, supported anti-gay politicians and pushed a very negative GOP agenda for a few years.
Since his coming out, Ken has been raked, and I mean RAKED through the coals about his actions from many LGBT bloggers and activists. Now, I'm not a fan of Ken, but I can't completely hang him out to dry. Am I mad at him? Yes. But will it change anything to hate on him forever? No.
Y'all know me, I tend to equate some type of comic book/pop culture thing to explain my stance. So here's it goes... When I think about Ken, I think about Rogue from the X-Men. Before she was a member of the merry mutants, she was a villain. However, she came to her senses and went to the X-Men to get her life together. Some of them were not happy about it, but in time she proved herself to the team.
I believe Ken will do the same. But if we throw him to the sharks, are we really helping matters?
Many LGBT fam are hating on him for coming out now. But think about your coming out experience. For many of us, it was not the Barbie Dream House at all. I think about how my friends, with strong religious backgrounds, struggled for years before coming out to themselves.
I don't know Ken's struggle, but I bet it was Hell dealing with his true feelings and the people he was working for. Research tells us that during our denial stage, we do some crazy and unspeakable things. Many of us try to pray the gay away, marry a woman, become preachers and some other crazy ass stuff.
Perhaps, Ken's internal battles led him to fight against us, fight against himself. Maybe he was doing his anti-gay stuff to "straighten" himself out.
But now, he is trying to change; Ken is trying to move forward. But instead of trying to hear him out, many folks are trying to destroy him. Are we that unforgiving? Are we really wanting to cause him deep and damaging pain?
Ken is a true test of our integrity and our level of acceptance. In time, I hope we can forgive him and move on. This is a great opportunity to truly watch someone rewrite their the history and fight for what's right.
Posted by Wonder Man at 3:52 AM