Eric Anderson's new book, The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating, claims that cheating is good for men.
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Cheating, however, serves men pretty well. An undiscovered affair allows them to keep their relationship and emotional intimacy, and even if they're busted it's a lot easier than admitting that they wanted to screw someone else in the first place, he writes.Interesting stuff. Please check out the rest of the article and I would love to hear your thoughts. I don't know if men need to cheat.
In his study of 120 undergraduate men, 78 percent of those who had a partner cheated, "even though they said that they loved and intended to stay with their partner." Contrary to what we may think, most men aren't cheating because they don't love their partner, he says; they cheat because they just want to have sex with others. And society shouldn't pooh-pooh that.
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I don't think men need to cheat, I think men who want to cheat need to cheat.
I didn't read the rest of the article but imo, men cannot be monogamous because it isn't in our nature. We're animals, built to breed. Even if a man doesn't physically cheat, he cheats in his mind. Even Jimmy Carter admitted to lust in his heart for someone other than Rosalyn.
behrmark is correct. It's in our (mans) nature to want to engage with as many partners as posible. That's why I don't believe in the institution of marriage.
While "cheating" may be part of our primal nature, modern human males are not all primal self any longer. For some people it may be effortless not to cheat, others will have to work at it. Amending their relationship to allow for sex with others or to do more unusual things may need to be considered. Honesty and communication between everyone involved are the two important things here.
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