Friday, July 12, 2013

My 2 Cents on the CATFISH episode featuring Anthony and Marq (Framel)

 So, I am late on discussing the Catfish episode, involving Anthony and Marq/Framel. If you are curious to what I'm talking about, see below

Framel pretended to be someone else (Marq) and Anthony believed it. When they met, Anthony learned that Framel wasn't the hot, thin dancer guy... He was... Well, being nice, not very attractive. During the confrontation, Framel admitted he was wrong but the catch for me was his backstory. 

Framel hated himself and believed being gay is a sin. That kind of thinking forced him act as someone else. Framel wanted to lose his identity and become anyone else, but himself. In a lot of ways, we have been there. How many of us hated ourselves so much that we tried to be someone else? How many of us hated ourselves so much that you lied about everything you were?

To be honest, I have... Years ago, when I started college. I tried to erase myself and start over. Thank Hera, I learned to accept everything about myself a couple of years later. It wasn't easy, but I did it. However, that episode was a harsh reminder how many of us have been in Framel's shoes.

What Framel did was totally wrong, but Framel was victim of his environment. An environment that still labels gay men as sinful, where certain gays matter and certain ones don't, and that you will never be good enough.

This is an environment that has to change, and we need to change it. 

2 comments:

LuCiFeR A said...

He got it BAD, that's all I can say.

Bama Boi said...

Very common feelings for many of us. What trips me out is that gay men should be very familiar with the Catfish game. From browsing many sites like A4A, BGC, Grindr, etc...one should always use the spirit of discernment to figure out if something isn't right with the chatee, within a few conversations.

Sad that this happened, but it happens.