Monday, October 28, 2013

Not Every Gay wants Marriage

As gay marriage grows in America, many gays and lesbians are not so quick to jump the broom. In fact, they are not even considering marriage.

New York Times penned an interesting piece about the ones who don't want to go to the chapel.

For some, marriage is an outdated institution, one that forces same-sex couples into the mainstream. For others, marriage imposes financial burdens and legal entanglements. Still others see marriage not as a fairy tale but as a potentially painful chapter that ends in divorce. And then there are those for whom marriage goes against their beliefs, religious or otherwise.

“It’s a very, very archaic model,” said Sean Fader, 34, an artist in New York who is single and asked to be identified as queer. “It’s this oppressive Christian model that says ‘Pick a person that’s going to be everything to you, they have to be perfect, then get a house, and have kids, and then you’ll be happy and whole.' ”

“There are many heterosexuals who feel the same way,” he added. After all, not all heterosexual couples choose to marry. 
 Hmm, well what do you think about this?


Bob Slatten said...

Here's my deal: if you're gay and you want to be married then you should be allowed to be married.

If you're gay and you don't want marriage because you think it's this whole archaic enslaving thing, then don't get married. But also, don't put down those that do want marriage.

BloggerJoe said...

As the old saying goes "Each cat a different rat."

The Huntress said...

What Bob said.

I'm not considering marriage because I don't want the messy entanglements divorce brings with it. Alimony. Prenups. Kids. Splitting up assets. Shared custody. Ugh!

My parents were married for fifty years, but that's now the exception and not the norm. Every one of my straight friends has been through at least one divorce or more except one former friends. And that former friend is trapped in his marriage with a wife that hates him because of the kids.

K. Clark said...

What Bob said. If you wanna get married, get married. If you don't, don't. But everyone should have the right to get hitched if they want.

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