My friend and I were talking the other night at our favorite diner. He told me that he somewhat gives his ex (the sad ex, I wrote about before) false hope about a possible future.
When I dug a little further, he revealed that he does just because he's lonely. My friend said it gives him a sense of security that somebody out there wants him. I was a little shocked, but I could see where he was coming from.
One of my friends stayed in a relationship for 6 years acting as a bottom, but was really a top. He never said anything until it was too late and his relationship ended because of it. He later said that he stayed quiet because he didn't want to be alone.
Another friend slept around because he didn't want to be alone every night.
And I stayed in an useless relationship for 7 months because I didn't want to be lonely.
How many of us have done interesting things just to avoid loneliness?
I told my friend that it was unfair to his ex and to himself. He knew that, but felt if he completely let him go, the loneliness will eat him alive.
I hope he can change his frame of thinking.
