Interesting Quote: Cody Freeman

Feeling alone in a big city, walking from building to building without making a connection, I desperately wanted to meet like-minded individuals, but I found myself resorting to these apps to do that.

But instead of advancing the gay agenda of inclusion, I found the apps to perpetuate what people scorn about LGBT: promiscuity, impersonal behavior, and sexually motivated conversations. This is not the fault of the LGBT community, but these depersonalized conversations are what lead to depersonalized relationships. When an introduction to gay culture is through a sex-based app, it perpetuates the sex-based stereotype.

This is from a good article in TIME, check it out

A4A, Grindr, Bear 411... Let's Upgrade these Sites

Grindr, Scruff, Adam 4 Adam are just a few of the 50 gazillion sites where gays can meet (hook up).

 But I don't think they get to the heart of the matter. S,o I have some suggestions to upgrade these sites.

• Guys can't post just cock and butt pics. It has to be full body (with face) pics. Don't hide, if you want to do the 'booty booty' you should be completely upfront about it.
• Take the out the FRIENDS option. Let's be real, who is actually looking for 'friends' on Scruff? 
• There should be a minute clip of you in action. Meaning, you should be required to post a minute clip of you giving oral, dancing, having sex and whatnot. I think it would be nice to see what you are getting and if it's worth it.  I think about it, you can see if they have the skills or not. Think about the time and drama you can save.
• Only up-to-date pics. You can not post pics from 1998 in 2011, claiming that's how you look now.
• There should be a chart that shows everyone who you've hooked up with. Then, you would know if your ex, friend or uncle have slept with your possible f**k buddy.
• Location... True Location.
• Only OUT gays. No closeted or married men allowed.

Maybe they already do these things.  I just saw some of these sites for the first time (from my roommate during Netroots Nation).  But if they don't, I think they should. Hooking up should be completely on the real tip.

Thank Hera for Small Favors...part 2

DList is a useless hook-up site with too many self-important queers and not enough smart lovable geeks. But guess what? It's done, the worthless site will be gone by the beginning of the year.

Why? Well, for true logical reason of course.
The creator, Daniel Nardicio said that “Dlist is pretty much dead. I moved on emotionally when I realized I’d partnered with the wrong person," Nardicio revealed. "So I’m developing the next, new exciting version of what I wanted for DList! It'll incorporate all my original ideas from DList, but move the whole venture into live, real contact.”

A new version? Well I guess everyone looking for an empty hook-up will have to return to Gay.com for their pleasure.